“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”
― Audrey Hepburn
What makes a girl or woman beautiful? Many people think that it has to do with clothes that she wears; the latest trends can set her apart from the rest of the pack. Maybe she thinks that if she wears less clothing, then she will be considered beautiful. Thus, she wears short skirts and tight shirts. Impressing boys, or perhaps girls, is what she seeks….a constant hunger for the world of beauty.
But does that really make her beautiful?
Beauty is not just about the clothes or the body. Beauty describes the heart and the soul as well.
Beauty should be defined by her self-respect.
Sometimes self-respect is hard to find because people have varying ideas on how to respect their own bodies, souls and minds. A certain amount of females may think that it is perfectly acceptable to don barely-there outfits in various public places. Other females may feel that practice is quite intolerable.
Women should be independent. Women can do everything men can do. But
Look at it this way: If one were a mother, would that mother want her daughter in a scantily clad outfit or acting like a sex object? Is she being a good role model?
That may sound silly because one’s whole life can’t be determined on how they would act as a parent, but nonetheless, most people do wish to set a good example to those around them, including children.
So, what kind of example are we ladies setting for our future ladies we will raise?
My boyfriend calls me beautiful every single day. He likes seeing me in dresses. He likes seeing me in nothing. But he really loves it when I wear his oversized clothing.
Yes, his oversized hoodies and sweatpants. He loves it when I wear those things.
Ladies, while scantily clad clothing in public is a choice you may decide to make, it does not really make you any more beautiful or confident. Personally, I feel it only attracts the types of men a woman will never, ever in a million years want to marry. Gentlemen like real women, assholes like anything less. But nonetheless some women still choose to dress as such and I kind of feel sorry for them. If a female feels like she has to put on bustier or next to nothing to be sexy or beautiful, she hasn’t met a real man yet.
And most of all, if a girl is putting on such clothing for someone else, she really needs to do some soul-searching. Because girls don’t think, “Hey I want to put on this next- to- nothing outfit because it shows how self respecting I am.” Girls tend to think, “If I dress like this, guys will like it and want to hang out with me.”
No, all guys will want is sex. A girl is kidding herself if she thinks otherwise. No talk about marriage ever started with a guy meeting a girl in a bar with lingerie or a micro mini on. That’s how booty calls start.
One that is truly beautiful does not need to be told that she is beautiful. She should already know. Dressing to show off in a risqué manner just proves she is bound by chains that men hold. Because let’s be honest, a true beauty would look amazing in a parka because she knew she was beautiful. And only when a woman realizes she does not need that approval will she truly be free of those chains.
Dressing provocatively is not terrible either. I do believe there is a time and a place for it. I do believe that time in place is in the bedroom. I do believe that if a girl decided to take it outside the bedroom, it is not in confidence, despite what others may say. I think it’s for male entertainment and for attention; hence she is bound by the chains of a male society.
But I think also that this is where the transition of girl into woman comes in to play.
Girls dress for guys. Women dress for themselves. Girls fall all over guys. Women know they don’t have to. Girls complain about their bodies. Women carry themselves with pride.
Ms. Hepburn was right: True beauty and confidence comes from the eyes; eyes can penetrate the soul. A female’s real beauty is found in the way she looks into your eyes. One can see her soul, her life story, her secrets. True beauty comes from self-respect; the kind of respect that a grandmother can teach. The kind of respect that only comes from within, not the boy one is dressing for. True beauty comes from knowing one’s self.
So the next time you think about the choices you make, think about all the future ladies, some that you may give birth to, that are depending on you to show them how truly beautiful they are.
Set them free and don’t let them down.