Life Lessons

Individuality and Lady Gaga

Most people find it increasingly difficult to fit in these days.

So, I ask, “Why even bother?”

Individuality is something to be idolized.  Individuality is one of the best gifts one can ever give to his or herself.  Individuality is a prized possession.  And yet…

Individuality is often frowned upon.

I have always had a niche for liking Disney characters.  I can tell you anything about every movie.  I have pink Disney Princess sheets on my bed.  I have Princess Posters in my room, along with a Disney plate collection.  I also like Harry Potter, and have posters of the movies in my room.

So naturally people think I need to grow up.

However, I refuse to do that.

What is wrong with individuality? Why is it that people spend so much time trying to fit in with everyone else?  And why does society make fun of those that show their individuality?

There’s nothing wrong with individuality. People try and fit in because they are afraid of how great they can be. People are looked down upon for being individuals because others are afraid of change.

But, if we don’t change, then we can’t grow.

While I was browsing the internet, I found an article on one of my favorite entertainers, Lady Gaga.  The article had comments by various people saying how “untalented” and “attention seeking” she is.  I do believe that people are entitled to their own opinions.  But, she’s an individual.  She prides herself in being herself, and that’s a beautiful thing. People should admire her strength to be able to stand out; that’s what all people should be doing.

Fitting isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be.  If you have to change yourself to be with a friend, that person is not your friend.  Truthfully, we need more people like Lady Gaga.  The world needs a spice of life and needs a glimmer of hope. That spice and glimmer can only be attained with individuality.  The world needs change.  People should be progressing instead of digressing.

Be Yourself.

Just remember this: People tend to be scared of individuals; they’re scared of what they can accomplish.  There may be safety in numbers, but there is danger, passion and excitement in individuality.

Beauty, Life Lessons, Women

I Am Woman

Life is full of ups and downs.  I know this from experience.  Some days you feel perfect; your hair looks amazing, your pants make your butt look nice and your make-up turned out just right.  Some days you feel like death; the make-up looks like a clown did it, you look fat in everything and your hair does nothing you want it to.  The question here is this:

Why should we as women feel crappy about ourselves on any days?

People always say beauty isn’t skin deep, and they’re right.  Beauty is something that shines from the inside.  Beauty is that shot of light through the darkness.  Beauty, contrary to popular belief, is not perfection. 

So why do women constantly feel this pressure to be perfect? And why don’t more women take a stand and say, “I’m beautiful just the way I am and that’s something no one can ever take away from me?” 

Somewhere between the passion and freedom of the 60s, the Sex and the City girls and the back-stabbing Gossip queens, a woman’s pride and beauty got lost in translation. 

Think of it this way.  If a woman is happy with herself, then she doesn’t need a man (or woman) to make her feel complete.  She shines on a daily basis regardless of what anyone says.  That is beauty.  Let’s face it, all these girls out there sleeping around with whoever they please are really just insecure and hate themselves.  I mean, when did girls start thinking with their vaginas instead of their brains? If you act like a slut, that’s all you’re ever going to be seen as.  If you’re happy with that, well then be happy.  But don’t be surprised when tragedy strikes you.  Chances are, you’re only sleeping around to feel better about yourself, and that is something women should feel from within themselves, not because of another person.  And rumors, they’re stupid as well.  All a rumor is, is insecurity talking.  If a girl starts a rumor about another girl, 99% of the time it is because she is jealous.  Jealousy is ugly in every single way. 

The key to happiness is confidence.  If one carries themselves well, then they can have anything.  That is beautiful. 

It’s time for a change.  It’s time for girls to stick by each other like the girls from Sex and the City.  Be your girlfriend’s soul mate; not her backstabbing gossip queen.    It’s time for all women to see themselves as the beautiful people they are, instead of self-loathing creatures.  Life is too short and it’s bittersweet most of the time.  So love yourself.  

Obviously, Sex and the City is a pioneer in how women think about themselves, and one of the most memorable quotes is this one from Carrie Bradshaw, played by Sarah Jessica Parker:

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, and those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the-you-you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”

So love yourself first, and others second.  Life would be so much easier for everyone without the insecurities, jealousy and drama.  

Women, stand together and say, “I am Woman, hear me roar.”  Don’t run from your problems, stare them down and defeat them because you can only run so far before you run smack right into no one other than yourself.  Then you find you’ve only been running from yourself the whole time, not the problem. 

Women, stay beautiful; all of us are in all of our imperfections.