I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t fear the unknown.
The unknown is an endless array of possibilities, hopes and disappointments. Frequently, we are taught to go after the unknown and all of its glory. But what happens when we’re scared to venture into that dark and scary chasm?
Since I was born, my mother has been telling me the same thing over and over, “Have patience.” She’ll say it, and I’ll roll my eyes and laugh. The truth is: patience really hasn’t ever gotten me anywhere simply because I am not a patient person. Having patience for the unknown isn’t something I’m good at. I constantly wonder what it is I should be doing while I sit around being patient.
Patience is tough in any situation that life throws.
Let’s look at the scenario of dating. You meet this guy and you think, “Well isn’t he hott?” You talk over drinks. You’re gauging his body language; he’s leaning in, he’s smiling, your hands touch, he’s talking to you and he’s actually listening, and then it happens….
It’s not a big deal; a soft peck on the lips with an embrace. Nonetheless it happened and now you’re left wondering, “Where do I go from here?”
Then, you wait.
Dating is an unknown abyss of promise and heartbreak. If you’re like me, you always think of what you’re doing wrong, what you should be doing and whether or not that other person feels even the slightest shred of emotion for you. You wonder if you misread the signals, and then you wonder if maybe you’re the one that was wrong.
You sit and bask in the unknown. The fear will either eat at your core, or you can learn how to embrace and conquer it.
Ultimately, you have to decide if you’re willing to be patient, or if you need to take a risk. There always seems to be rules that people are supposed to follow: “Don’t text right away,” “Don’t scare him away,” “Let him chase you,” “Don’t rush it.”
So, what do you do when you face the unknown? Do you follow the rules, or should you simply be patient?
If you’re like me, you’re patient…
and you hope to God that your mother is right.